Love is in the air !!!

Oh no not again !! Some of you may get vexed with the hint of this topic every now and then in my blog .... Its ok .. I dont mind .. There have been some circumstances leading to this & I had to write about this ... Will try my hand on something different the next time ...But for now bear with me & read on..

How does it feel to fall in love with somebody ? This question has been dragged out so much that it doesn't seem very relevant to people who are not introduced to such an emotion .... But ask anybody who has atleast briefly glimpsed it ... Dimples appear ... eyes suddenly smile at you... and words become tentative thereafter ... Some say that they did not know when it exactly started.... for some it is a jolt out of the blue ... for some it is a slow & sweet realisation ....It is a wondrous feeling of being so one with that other person ..where you do not know where he/she begins and you end... All this is so romantic .. or in other words it is romantic love .... Does it stay this way ? Does the "waiting patiently till you come" feeling last forever? Or is it just the initial phase of the relationship that makes your heart flutter ... goose bumps to come up ..and generally makes you do crazy things which normally you would not have even thought twice...

How does it feel after being with the person for quite a long time ? You come to know the not so romantic things ... like his snoring ... like her habit of throwing clothes around .... like his habit of always coming an hour late ...Romantic love does wane after some time .... But as a gift without a beautiful wrapping is still a gift ... Love in its raw form without the extra fittings is more beautiful...You just dont care whether you are dressed properly ...or if your hair is sticking to your head ...You are just comfortable being with that special person as you are ...But problems do crop up even then... You may take the person too much for granted..& hurt unknowingly ...

True love - I mean the soulmates kind of thing .. blah.. blah - is a very rare commodity .. love as we see it nowadays is not totally unselfish.. Each one of us love ourselves more than we do others... Then what is the realistic yardstick with which you measure the depth of love you have? Is it great love if everything started off from an innocent friendship & then gradually developed into love ? Or is it great if it was love at first sight (anyway does this happen nowadays ?) According to me if at any point of time you have been able to keep aside your problems completely & get troubled by his/her's instead .. then you have glimpsed that elusive thing ... You are in love if just that different ring tone of his can make your heart race ...Yet again .. yardsticks vary ... your concept of love may be quite different from mine ....But thats just the beauty of it ... You just cannot put a finger on the exact definition ....

So people who are in love out there ... just hug yourself (or each other ;-)) and congratulate yourself for your lucky stars ..& pl remember that there are ample number of questions thrown around for you to answer..

And People who have just gone through a painful breakup.. just hang in there ... it is only time & hope that can heal you .. and anyway there is nothing else left to do other than hope ....and sooner or later something will work out !!!

Signing off
Sundari

Comments

Anonymous said…
Before asking anybody I suppose you would have asked the "briefly glimpsed" question to yourself. Otherwise you couldn't have concluded saying "your concept of love may be quite different from mine". ....Was just pulling your leg.... Do not take me otherwise.

Love is really a fascinating and beautiful thing. This commonness should be there among the numerous number of concepts which may measure love. I experienced this feel while reading this blog of yours.

My ideas for the blog(ger) = Love involves commitment. Sometimes the commitment is compramised by either or both parties against the various temptations like - being cared by, wanting to look happy before peers, etc. This temptation cannot be called as love but can only be categorized as infactuation.
2:15 AM
Anonymous said…
Love is not to be measured and definetely cannot be defined in just one way..just to add more queries....Saif Ali Khan's quote when he broke up with his wife.."I love her but I am not in Love with her...",,,does it make sense or no...??
3:40 AM
Anonymous said…
My question again would be the same...Do words like commitment , compromise , establishing a balance , understanding need to be used while defining "love"...I think , when one is in love , they do not feel the need to compromise on anything , balance their priorities or whatever it is , understande etc..etc...it comes to them naturally and they wouldn't even be aware of doing the aforementioned...When ppl from outside the picture look at them..they will view the hard work involved in the relationship..but the ones in the picture...they don't feel a thing except the affinity for each other...That is when we say they are in love..They are made for each other...they complete each other...etc..etc...
2:28 AM
Anonymous said…
Psychoanalysis of self & others .. influenced by movies. Seems like this one was written after watching some movie
11:09 PM
bugs said…
Hummmmmmmmmm

Love is a difficult topic to discuss. Everyone have different understanding on this feeling...

I feel that love should be unconditional in first place..because love means to give something and not to just keep expecting.........

May as u said lavan..people take each other for granted after some-time.....also once u start discovering the other side of your good-looking and charming partner..like his/her habits...way of living..and many things..u start developing some negative about that person.

If u say u love someone..that means u should love him/her the way they are....generally we tend to see what we want to see in start...and later when we see other things..we think otherwise... U should accept the person with his good and bad both habits and his/her basic nature...problem starts when u try to change that person according to yoru taste..


Any ways may be i am going too deep into this...in short i can say if u love someone means u have accepted that person as he/she is....

Bugs.
3:40 AM
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